How to eat a girl out - A guide to her orgasm

Posted by: SeanF

Note: This post is sexual in nature. Those offended by such a topic or not of the legal age should read something else

My name is Sean and this is actually my first LifeHut posting. I had noticed that LifeHut didn’t have any topics relating directly toward sex and felt I could take this role on, so the owner setup an account for me and gave me the greenlight.

With Valentines day fast approaching, many couples begin to plan that day early especially with the intentions to make love and show passion.

Women's LegsHopefully, the partners involved are looking to more than just have intercourse, but use foreplay of all kinds to sexually stimulate each other to the highest degree.

Note, this is a fairly long article, and though I recommend you read the whole thing, below are some shortcut links to certain areas. NOTE:, if you have never eaten a girl out before, I would recommend grabbing a coke, relaxing, and read this.

One of these forms of foreplay is the act of cunninglingus (aka, eating a girl out). When done properly and with passion, you can bring a girl to multiple orgasms. The obvious solution to this is performing this act properly, but often times those involved will go down like a cow chewing on grass. This just won’t work, (well, unless your partner is super freaky).

Myth: Girls like it rough

When it comes to intercourse, this may very well be yes. However, when it comes to eating a girl out, things have to be soft and slow, to begin with, and can quicken up pace as time progresses…but you should never be pressing extra hard, ramming your tongue on her clitoris, using teeth, or treating her vagina lips like a pack of chewing gum.

Take your time and enjoy it

Men, if you are enjoying fellatio (aka, a blowjob), does it turn you on more if the woman sucks you like (in Chris Rock’s words, “Their trying to get robotussin out of the penis”) or if a woman gives you a blowjob like they would rather never do it again? I am going to take a wild guess that the 1st option is your preference.

Lets face it, a girl who is excited and enthusiastic to give you head turns you on much more than one who would rather suck a moldy stick then your penis. If a girl is willing to put your penis in her mouth, you better be able to return the favor.

To some people, the mere idea of eating a girl out or the idea of the juices and smells is simply gross. If you are unable to get over this thinking, then giving a girl cunninglingus most likely won’t happen and she will be missing out on a very exciting (in my opinion) aspect of sex and foreplay. Don’t be dissapointed if she decided to no longer give you a blowjob.

To please, you need to tease

Now, let’s get down to the nitty gritty of eating a girl out. One misconception that many people have with the act is that they need to go straight to the clit and/or start gnawing away like they have 1 minute to live and the world is going to end. This thinking needs to be thrown out the window.

Teasing, in my book, is a large factor in giving a woman the pleasure and orgasms her body is craving. Men might be able to get away with a quick and raw blowjob, but women are much different and require time and patience. If you don’t have it, then stop reading this article.

What is the one factor that is almost necessary for a woman to enjoy sex? Her wetness. Are you having to rely on lubrication much too often when trying to have sex? A good reason for this is simply her body is NOT READY. You will know when her body is ready. Most likey she will be begging you to have sex or her wetness will be a tale tell sign that she is in a high state of arousal. A good comparison is that of a man’s erection. When he is rock hard, he is very aroused, however when he is limp as a noodle, he is not experiencing that same state of arousal (in his mind or his body).

One of the goals of eating a girl out is not only to give her immense pleasure, but to increase her level of wetness prior to having sex. Just understand this equation:

Wetness = Time + Patience

Teasing is one of the actions that can cause a woman’s arousal level to rise. The idea behind teasing is to actually NOT eat the girl out for a period of time, but do enough set of actions that lead her to want to force you to eat her out. Point being, if you have teased her enough, you may very well have her hands on the back of your head pushing your face into her vagina.

Less is more

I make that statement referring to the amounts of efforts you put into eating a girl out. As I said above, making it rough, using hard pressure, and superman like tongue action does not necessarily equal a pleasurable experience for her. Take it slow, take it soft, and take your time.

Teasing

Here are my recommendations for teasing your partner:

  • First, start with some soft kissing on her lips (the ones on her head :) ). Let this make out session progress into more passionate kissing. Slowly break away and begin kissing the side of her face, then her neck letting your breath lightly brush her skin. At this stage, hopefully your partner’s blood pressure is starting to raise sending blood into the RIGHT places (i.e; her breasts, vagina, and clitoris). Both of you should be breathing a little harder and your hands are all over each other.
  • Try everything physically and mentally in your power to prevent yourself from going between her legs just yet. The idea is to tease her, not try and win the game in the first half. The kisses you were performing on her neck should be moving down toward her lower neck and upper chest. If her shirt is not off by this time, you may want to slowly (I SAID SLOWLY) begin removing it. The idea here is to show her you are patient and slow, not going for the kill. I would recommend either having her remove the bra or you doing it. Begin moving your kisses down on to her chest. Plant your kisses all over her chest and neck, and try to actually stay away from her nipples. The nipples and clitoris are two of most sensitive places on a womens body, so you must treat them with respect and tenderness.
  • Run your tongue over areas of her breasts and let your tongue lightly brush her nipples. Give them a little stimulation, but not too much. Again, we are WARMING your girl up. Once some more kisses have been planted, move your mouth over one of her nipples and very lightly suck on them, pulling the nipple up into your lips. While doing so, make sure you are running your tongue over the nipples in various angles. DO NOT SUCK HARD
  • After several minutes of kissing of her chest, move back up placing kisses back up her neck, around her ears and continue kissing her on the lips. While doing so, caress the back of her hair/head with one hand while lightly rubbing her back with the other.
  • If you have found your partner enjoys dirty talk, you may want to consider saying something into her ear such as “I want to taste you”. Something along the lines of “I want to taste your buttercup” might not be the best of phrases to use.
  • Again move down her chest placing kisses and begin moving over her stomach.
  • Are her pants still on? If so, use this to your advantage and be slick about it. While kissing down her stomach over her naval, grab the sides of her pants and begin SLOWLY wiggling them down over her butt and thighs. Remember, go slow…we aren’t trying to win a race. The worst thing you can do is ask her to remove her pants and panties. As I said, use this position to your advantage to show you the passion and interest you have. As her pants are slid off, run your face, lips, and mouth over her mound (assuming she still has her panties on). If you are lucky, you might even see a wet spot forming (this is a GREAT THING!)
  • After her pants have been slid off, hopefully your head is below her mound or near her knees. Now you have open access to her thighs. Begin planting kisses and running your tongue on parts of her thighs. There is no need to coat it with a thin film of your juices…but you don’t want it dry as the desert either. Work your way up to her inner thighs. You most likely can smell her odor by this time. Whether or not you like the smell of her is irrelavent, your job is to please her and you SHOULD at minimum ACT like you enjoy what your doing.
  • If her panties are still on, leave them on. After kissing her thighs, run your tongue over the center of her panties where her vagina would be. This little action will be / should be the first time you have made contact with her down there. This should also fire an impulse up to her brain which sends an impule back to her vagina saying “ooh, that felt good”. This also helps build her arousal level. Now, I said run your tongue over it, don’t actually begin the act of eating her out. Even if her hands are now on the back of your head pushing you closer, lightly grab her hands and whisper “patience my dear, your time is coming” or something to that effect. Figure out what you want to say, but the point is to elongate this entire process on YOUR time table, not hers.
  • After your tongue has spent a few seconds on her panties, move back up to her lower stomach and kiss in that area. Run your tongue down into the rim of her panties signaling to her that you are going to begin working your way lower. Take your fingers and slowly begin lowering her panties while maintaing your tongues position. If she has pubic hair (some girls shave, some don’t…hopefully she has trimmed) continue your process (it’s just hair). As the panties begin to lower, continue lowering your mouth and tongue. The idea behind this movement is that we are going to let your tongue very lightly run over her vagina slit, and hopefully part of her clitoris. This action is literally going to take no longer then about 2 seconds. The idea is to give her a small taste (and yourself too :) ) but to hopefully send a chill up her spine. Again, we are placing her in anticipation and raising her arousal level.
  • Finish pulling of her panties and begin kissing to the left and right of her vagina, but not on her vagina lips. Run your tongue on her inner thighs and from time to time let your tongue DRAG across her vagina lips while getting to her other thigh. “Hopefully”, by this time you can visually see her lips slightly opening or becoming engorged. Some womens clits are large and others are small, so you may even seen some engorgement with the clitoris.
  • Run your hands up her stomach to her breast to lightly rub on them. While paying attention to her inner thighs, let your hands roam her body including her butt. At this time, you can also begin the process of opening her legs to give you greater access to her “WORLD according to Dave Mathhews Band”. Hopefully you see more wetness leaking from her. This again is a great sign.

Now it’s time for business

That is a large writeup above us for just teasing, isn’t it? Well, when placed into actions, it’s really quite simple and fairly fluid.

What has been happening is that you were prepping her body. Hopefully her can’t wait for your mouth to do it’s dirty work on her vagina. Her body should be “aching” for relief.

  • While your hands are on her hips or butt, and her legs are spread, bring your mouth in contact with her slit. SLOWLY and LIGHTLY run your tongue from the bottom of her slit and let it glide up her slit past her clitoris. Give her clitoris a soft light kiss and maybe include a very light sucking motion. Some women’s clits are extended more than others…but don’t panic if hers is in hiding.
  • Bring your hands toward her vagina lips so that your fingers can very lightly part them giving you more access. Again. lightly bring your mouth in contact with her vagina and begin lightly running your tongue and lips over hers. Insert your tongue partly into her vagina if you feel like it. Give her lips and vagina some kisses all while running your hands on her body.
  • Move your mouth to her clit and begin letting your tongue lightly flick and lick at it. Very softly and slowly, NOT quick fast and hard.
  • IMPORTANT! - Watch her body reactions and if she is verbal, well damnit, listen to her…we are in crucial territory right now!
  • If she appears to be enjoying your actions, consider slowly picking up your pace
  • Do the Alphabet / Crazy 8’s - I have read about this but it’s true. Again, assuming you are using soft motions with your tongue, try letting your tongue lick her vagina/clit at different angles, different speeds, different pressures but doing so in different ways. Doing one boring motion can be, well, boring…unless you know/sense that certain actions you are doing just aren’t working…then stick with what does work.

Freddy got Fingered Tom Green movie…disregard if you don’t get it

One key to eating a girl out isn’t just using your tongue and mouth, but using your fingers. While making sure your fingers tips are wet, consider lightly circling your finger tip on her clit while running your tongue on/around/in her vagina lips.

Some girls are more sensitive then others, so if you have played your cards right, there is a good chance your partner could have had an orgasm, if not multiples already. Spend some time working on this position and again, listen to her reactions and her body movements and adapt.

The next step we want to take is the use of your fingers INSIDE your partner. We are going to attempt and use her G-SPOT (yes, it exists) with the addition of our tongue on her clitoris.

The G-Spot is our friend

Anyone who has ever brought a girl to orgasm via the g-spot knows its true power. While continuing to eat your partner out, wet 1 or 2 of your fingers and begin slowly inserting them into your parters vagina. Again, even though they might be wet, slowness and patience is the key. Don’t ram your fingers home or her panties are flying back on and you will be in the doghouse.

  • While maintaining your constant licking, light sucking, and kissing, work your fingers ever so deeper into her vagina and begin a slow and suttle pumping motion as to mimic sex. Hopefully she is very wet and you can sense her arousal levels. The ideal depth to begin rubbing her spot is about 2 1/2 to 3 inches inside her. Assuming your partner is on her back, place your palm up so that the pads of your finger tips (hopefully you are using your middle and pointer fingers) are facing up toward the top wall of her vagina. This is our golden spot. In a motion as if you wanted to lift your partners butt off the using only your fingers, raise them to the top of her vagina wall, lightly. Curl both fingers as if to motion to someone “Come here”, but using both fingers. The pads of your fingers should be gently rubbing her top vagina wall about 2 1/2 - 3 inches deep. While doing this, continue licking her clit and the top portions of her vagina lips. YOU WILL KNOW if you are doing something right. Increase the pressure on her vagina wall, but continue rubbing in the “Come hither” motion and even include some circular motions. If done right, your woman will be writhing in pleasure, hopefully cumming, and her hands will be on the back of your head. GREAT SIGNS!
  • Mix it up a bit and remove your fingers from her vagina wall and continue pumping in and out. Switch up your licking style as well.
  • NOTE: Some women have been known to “female ejaculate” when the g-spot is stimulated. Though this is unlikely and often a rarity, it will be a feeling as if she wants to pee, though it’s not pee. Don’t let this fact stop you from pursuing her g-spot. Knowing YOU are causing your partner to have incredible orgasms is a great feeling to have.

By this time, your partner may be beginning to get exhausted, but hopefully not worn out enough to have sex. Though I am just offering up tips, the amount of time you spend doing these acts is entirely up to you. Though I recommend the longer the better, you will have to base that on your partners body reactions. Listen to her if she tells you to move left, go deeper, go lighter, etc…

I wish I could sit here and claim this is “GUARANTEED” to work, I simply can’t. The above information is healthy advice that has certaintly worked for me, but much of the information is based on simple facts of how a women’s body reacts/works and based on other solutions in books and online articles that have been around for years.

 

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